What Makes Women Hide Their True Feelings?

There are some women out there who are confronted on a dilemma, whether to choose the friendship or just to blurt out their true feelings to their boy-friend, or simply saying, to their guy best friend.  All of us, women, have our best guy buddies. They are the ones who help us if we are in distress over something that mostly men can only solve such as changing the tires of our cars, broken pipelines, electronics troubleshoots, or even problems with our boyfriends.  We also prefer to spend time with them than with our girl-friends in doing some stuff such as working out in the gym, doing sports, watching baseball games, or simply going on a road trip. In other words, they can be our shelter, confidante, shock absorber and even the devil’s advocate at times.

Because of this, there are moments that we caught off guard, only to realize that we have fallen in love with our guy best friend.  Although this might sound like cliché as we have seen such a situation in movies and read such a thing in books/novels, still it can be a pain in the heart if you are at the fork of this situation – so much more if the guy is clueless of what you truly feel.

So, what prevents women in telling their guy best friend that they actually are in love with him?

For one, some women think that it is unlikely to a woman to do the first confession of her feelings to a guy. Although we are already in the dot.com age and, that, a lot of women are already surfing up in the corporate ladder, there are still some who believe that men should do the first chase, and not women. 

Another reason can be is that women settle to choose the friendship than the risk of losing it if she will confess her feelings to the guy. We have seen many times in movies how women brushed off the opportunity to say their true feelings to their guy best friend because they are afraid that if they will confess their feelings, the guy will already avoid them, ruining the friendship in the long run.

The guy is committed with someone else. Take, for example, the movie My Best friend’s friend's Wedding wherein the character of Julia Roberts hesitated at first to say her feeling to her best friend because the latter was bound for marriage. This discourages some women to be honest on their true feelings to their best friend because on the idea that she might wreck a good relationship and hurting her best friend on the break-up.

Rejection. What if he will reject me? What if he will feel betrayed? What if he will suddenly get awkward when around with me? These are some questions and what-ifs that plague the minds of women when it comes to the plan of saying their true feelings.  There are women who cannot bear the idea of rejection, so much more if the one rejecting her is her best friend. This will hurt the ego as well as spark insecurities among women - Why did he reject me? I thought he feels the same way; What’s wrong with me? I’m his best friend; it won’t be that difficult if he will treat me more than that.

As a whole, there is nothing wrong actually in confessing one’s true feelings to a person. There are emotions better off said than hidden. Being true to one’s self is liberating although, at times, there is no assurance that a happy ending is waiting at the end of the road. What is important here is that women should not lose their substance and worth whether the feeling of romantic love (and not just plain friendship) is reciprocated or not.